What is erotic?

I know you're attempting to answer this question in your mind and my fingers are crossed in the hopes that you've got an answer more creative than a dick going into a pussy.

Let me make this very clear: There is little eroticism in standard sexual intercourse.

So, are you thinking about a slow and sensual make-out with a whole lot of moaning and groaning, maybe with a little dry humping, in the back seat of your car after work?

How about tying someone down and beating them with a whip until they scream?

Watching someone undress when they don't know you can see?

Any, all of the above, or something else entirely that appeals to those dark, carnal desires of yours are fair game for eroticism.

In its blandest terms, eroticism means sexual excitement a step above sensuality. Psychoanalytically (as in, according to Freud's realm of thought) eroticism has absolutely nothing to do with the genitals but rather the erogenous zones of the body.

This makes eroticism different for different people. Obviously each of the above scenarios has varying appeal to different people.

You likely thought of something else entirely from the given examples when I asked what eroticism is. And that's fine. The most important thing to realize about eroticism is that it's not always about sex, but it's always sexual. That fine line of distinction is why I chose to address this now.

Think about it: Sex itself doesn't always fit these standards. There's very dull sex, sex that might not even get you off or satisfy you in the slightest. That's definitely not erotic. But putting a leash on your partner to satisfy your fantasies of control and dominance certainly is.

Consider that lovely little sex act that makes you tingle, makes you want to keep going forever, makes you yearn for more, and turns you on more than anything. It's guaranteed to be erotic, and that's a perfect starting point for you to form your personal definition of the term.

Most enjoy tying eroticism to "forbidden pleasures", which makes sense because people generally don't indulge these pleasures. We spend our lives denying these urges, postponing them for work and school and kids and obligations, really being productive members of society. We also deny the taboo and avoid doing things that will make us socially unacceptable.

Strange that the desire to fit in with other people generally overrides our innate need to fulfill those lustful urges.

So what could be hotter than getting down and dirty in the raunchiest way you could think of?

Absolutely nothing. That's erotic.