Circumcision: Cut vs. Uncut

Obviously, we only have two sides to discuss here. It's either been snipped, or not. Arguably, there are advantages to each, and disadvantages. People even have their preferences. But that's another post on another blog entirely.

Medically, it makes absolutely no difference. In the US, circumcision rates are dropping, but the rate is still at about 50 percent (meaning that about half of all baby boys get snipped in the US each year). It's also far more likely for white babies to get circumcised than any other race.

Let's do this systematically, shall we?

CUT.

Or, more medically, circumcised. This means the penis has no foreskin. It was likely removed when the child was a baby, largely because then the child won't have to experience the pain of its removal when they get older. Let's be real: I wouldn't know from personal experience, but I'm positive it's painful to have a piece of skin snipped off of one of the most sensitive parts of your body.

There are a lot of reasons to get the foreskin snipped off. Some people argue that it's cleaner and more hygienic because the boy doesn't have to deal with potential infections under the foreskin that could result from bacterial build up from bad washing habits. Others choose cut because of religious reasons. It's also common, because of pure American Judeo-Christian tradition, that the child gets circumcised because that's simply the way it's done. Or because that's how the father is.

It's all personal preference and choice for the parents, but the child never gets to choose (unless they've grown up and then choose to get circumcised then... Ouch.)

Circumcision actually makes the penis less sensitive because it gets used to all the extra sensation, usually buffered by the foreskin. You may think it looks beautiful without the little wrapper. Or you may think it looks like a naked mole rat. Personal preference.

UNCUT.
Uncircumcised, obviously the exact opposite of the above. It means that when the boy was born, the parents decided to spare him the pain of circumcision and let his body be. It could be because they didn't want to follow tradition. It could be out of compassion for their child. It might also be because the parents had excellent faith in their boy's future hygienic regimen.

Again, all personal. But they decided and the foreskin was saved. Boy grows up with a little extra wrapper around his penis, which some argue adds to the fun because it makes the penis so much more sensitive when it gets attention. It also has that little extra sleeve of sensation stimulated by manual sex and intercourse.

Some think that seeing the member in its natural state is like a work of art. Others think it looks like a worm. Personal preference.

If you're on the receiving end, it's worth it to spend time playing with both so you can learn which you like better (if either) and the differences between the two.

It'll be a fun experiment. ;)

The quickiest quickie I can give

You thought you were going to read all about quickies... Sorry to disappoint, but I'm actually dropping in to say midterms suck and wish everyone explosive and relaxing, sexy spring break. I'd like to hear some crazy stories when we all reconvene. ;)

Incorporating Kink

Just think about blindfolding your lover, or dripping hot candle wax on them. Or maybe even a rougher than usual bite, or a quick smack on the ass.

All that little "I like it rough" stuff, you know. That's kink.

And you know what's beautiful about kink? It's completely different than the usual vanilla bump and grind. Why wouldn't you incorporate a little extra of the kinky stuff into your general routine?

Plus, it's a nice way to spice things up. There are infinite acts that can be just as sexual/sensual/pleasurable as directly stimulating the genitals.

Before you get into any of these things, you must have an open mind, some extra time, and an inclination to break away from the vanilla (meaning standard penis in the vagina-status sex).

Some things to get your imagination going:

• candle wax
• ice cubes
• a hand around the neck
• feather
• blindfolds
• scarves around the wrists
• pulling hair
• biting
• spanking

Trust me, the list continues. And depending on how kinky you get, there's definitely more to get into.

Just let those creative - and other - juices flow. ;)

The Art of Fantasy

Just lean back and close your eyes and think of the hottest little sex scene you can. If you're drawing a blank, you're not alone. If your fantasy seems to fall short of your own internal expectations, you're also not alone. If you're working on the best damn fantasy that ever existed, complete with clowns, lubed up slip n' slides and a bowling alley, congrats on your imagination.

Fo those of you who aren't quite at that last level yet, you're going to be okay because thinking up the craziest shit imaginable is not at all what fantasizing is about. It's not even about what you actually want to experience, necessarily.

Fantasizing is about exercising your imagination and seeing what you can come up with. It's about seeing what turns you on and experiencing that within your mind. The sexiest of your own personal brand of sexy.

For example:

• a lesbian giving herself over to a man
• fucking your boss or secretary
• brother/sister/father/daughter, aunt/nephew, or other incest scenarios
• a brutal rape
• tying someone down and beating them
• a romantic candlelight dinner that turns into a romantic fuckfest

And any way you slice it, fantasizing is healthy. It's good to expand your imagination and add a little spice to your sex life (solo or partnered). it makes masturbation more fun. It provides fuel for role play in partner sex. It provides passion, desire, and safety, too, because YOU have all the control to make the scenario run as you like.

Just think of whatever tickles your fancy. They're all very valid fantasies. If it gets you wet, or gets you hard, go with it. Explore those deepest, darkest little sexual thoughts. Safely.

Oh, and did I mention it's THE PERFECT REMEDY for passing time? Try it next time you're on a break from work or bored as hell in class. You might be surprised at what your imagination comes up with. ;)

Lube!

Ever thought of a time when you just really wanted it a little more wet, a little bit more like a slip & slide?

Lube would have made that experience SO MUCH BETTER.

Now, you may think you know all about this stuff. You may think that there's not a whole lot to know. And you may even think you don't need it.

I'm here to assure you that you're wrong.

This stuff is completely indispensable, no matter who you are, or at what age you are. It's a FANTASTIC invention. It's changed the sexual world (no exaggeration).

Think about everything you can use it for:

• anything anal
• anything manual (hand jobs, clitoral stimulation....)
• anything with toys (vibrators, dildos....)
• massages (if you'd like)
• fisting (anal or vaginal)

and pretty much anything else. Sky's the limit.

Vaginal lubrication is not enough. Neither is pre-cum.

There are hella brands you can pick from, and tons of types, so why wouldn't you choose to add this to your playtime?

Your lube options boil down (basically) to the following:

• oil-based: Great for massages or outer play, lasts long and stays on, but it's hard to wash out and breaks down latex, jelly rubber, and cyberskin so you really have to be careful with that one.
• water-based: Essentially, this is the universal lube. You can use it for everything safely, it washes off easily, is compatible with everything, and completely ingestible. There's no way you can go wrong.
• silicone-based: The new, flashy kid on the block. Non-greasy and compatible with latex, it stays slippery forever (even under water) and is non-toxic. Downsides: it's extremely difficult to wash off, destroys silicone toys, and expensive.

Always check and make sure that you're not allergic to the one that you choose and that it works with the type of play that you want to do. From there, figure out your favorite brand and how to incorporate it into your play.

Experiment. Slater it on generously. And enjoy. ;)

Planned Parenthood

Now, I generally would rather stick to general education than get into the politics of all this bullshit, but like or not, sex and politics are ridiculously intertwined. The governments have tried to block sexual expression since they decided it was behavior that needed restraint (like idiots) and similar people have decided that they need to block expression now.

Even worse, they've decided to block safeguards put into place by the government (i.e. funding for family planning and STD testing) by denying funding to Planned Parenthood, among other organizations, because of the organization's funding of abortions.

Let's make something clear:
Whether you like it or not, ABORTION IS A LEGAL RIGHT IN THE UNITED STATES.

Regardless, Planned Parenthood has been stripped of all federal funding and federal family planning programs have been eliminated.

Are you fucking serious? How stupid do you have to be to strip people (mainly women) of rights that have been in place since the 1970's.

Title X was signed by Nixon in 1970 and says that women have the right to family planning regardless of economic condition.

And does anyone remember Roe v. Wade? A women has a right to her own body, and thereby right to abortion.

Planned Parenthood has been under attack for a while. I get that. I even understand why: abortion is a very religious and political issue. It's a moral thing. It's an ethical thing. People get charged over it.

But going "under cover" to "expose" what's going on behind Planned Parenthood's doors and exploiting it for all the good it's actually doing everywhere (*ahem* Live Action *ahem*) is selfish and stupid and I can't believe you haven't been stopped yet.

If Glen Beck supports you, you should be shut down. Hard.

Some stats for you to know:
According to the Washington Post, "abortions represent 3 percent of the services Planned Parenthood provides; contraception accounts for 35 percent; testing for sexually transmitted diseases, 34 percent; cancer screening and prevention, 17 percent".

I highly encourage you to fight this. Shutting down funding for family planning and preventative care is essential. Plus, if you're going to abort, you're going to abort. Canceling funding isn't going to do anything about that except just make it riskier for women.

Does this country need more people walking around with STDs? How about cancer? Unwanted (and easily prevented) pregnancies?

We live in the 21st century. Seriously. Get off your fucking moral high-horse, GOP, and join us in reality. Women don't deserve the sexist mistreatment. People realized this 40 years ago. Catch the fuck up.

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