Cherry-Popping

In honor of Valentine's Day (aka, Single's Awareness Day), I thought I would address the whole losing your virginity thing. If you still have it, I'm talking to you.

First off, sex is important and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. But the value you give to it is your own.

In American society, losing your virginity for girls is a very special little thing you do to the one you love (and maybe the one you hope to stay with for the rest of your life). For guys, it's a rite of passage, something you want to go through so you can say you did it.

Either way, that's fine, but I'd like people to have some realistic perceptions here:

1. Your first time will not be mind-blowing. It's not going to be incredible. It's going to be awkward if your partner doesn't know what they're doing, either, and there's a high possibility the girl won't get off at all. This is generally why people say you need to love your partner when you lose your virginity: it makes the embarrassment a lot easier to swallow.

2. It's not necessary to wait for your first time to be with someone you're in love with. Over your lifetime, chances are you're going to fuck a good amount of people, so why would you wait to deny it to yourself? If you're holding out for an emotional connection, good for you, but it's not necessary and you'd better not only be doing it because your church/mother/society told you that's how to do it. Have a reason from yourself.

3. Even if you're in love, it's risky. Use a condom, be on birth control. Protect yourselves, SERIOUSLY. You don't want to end up being a parent because you got too excited your first time. That's a shitty punishment.

4. SEX IS NOT LIKE IT IS IN PORN. You need to understand that one, boys and girls. It's not about ramming it in hard, or throat-fucking, because you're going to get your partner seriously hurt, guys. And girls, it's not like it is in a little romantic movie either. He's probably not the perfect guy and you won't be together forever and this probably won't mean to the world to you in ten years. Just think about it rationally.

5. Sex is not all about love. I want to throw that one out there for all the guilty to know. If you want to lose it because you're horny, by all means, DO IT. Think it through because hey, you might regret it, but you also might regret waiting. It's up to you. Just know that there's plenty of sex going around without love and plenty of love going on with absolutely no sex. It's how the cookie crumbles.

So if you'd like to give it up to the one you love this Valentine's Day, or cruise for someone who's going to rock your world for the first time to celebrate Single's Awareness, be prepared. Thing logically, or lustfully, because your heart doesn't always know what's up.

And have a condom with you. ;)