A Confusing Notion

Here's a simple word for you: sex. How much more blatant can it get? A cock slides into a pussy and BOOM: sex.

Right?

Definitely not.

In this case, the concept of the word is much more complicated than the word itself. That little bit described above is actually penetration, as is any instance of something going into an orifice of the human body (i.e. a dildo into an asshole, fingers into the mouth, a cucumber into the vagina... you get the idea).

Sex is not penetration, but penetration is sex. It's a teeny-tiny little segment of what you can do that qualifies as sex. Penetration IS NOT the goal of sex.

And if that IS your goal, then let me tell you, you need need to realign your sexual perceptions and do a little bit more during your playtime.

Remember the bases? Forget them. They assume that penetration is really what sex is all about and help perpetuate the misconception. They assume that everything else simply leads up to penetration as the promised land, the big finish.

Hell no.

Think about how much fun it is to engage in what people commonly call "foreplay" (a misnomer in and of itself because it makes it sound like penetration is really the only fun part). Lingering over the different erogenous zones - or really any zone - of the body with your fingers, lips, tongue, hair, etc., is highly sexual and pleasurable.

And pleasure is really the goal of sex. Unless your goal is to make babies in which case I have no idea why you're reading this.

There are other options as well if you really want to involve your genitals directly in the sex act. Women will commonly engage in what's called frottage, the sexual rubbing up against something. A woman can get on her lover's leg and hump away, for example. It stimulates the clit and can easily result in orgasm.

Men can put their penises between any of the soft curves of a body (thighs, ass cheeks, breasts...) and fuck away there, also easily resulting in orgasm because it gives the head of the penis the amount of stimulation it needs to make a man cum.

Did I mention these options are also forms of safer sex because they won't allow you to pass on/contract STDs or result in pregnancy? Do you see that you can easily get orgasm in other ways other than penetration and still experience extreme pleasure along the way?

Yep, fringe benefits galore.

So leave penetration station next time and spend more time in the foreplay section of your sexual repertoire. You'll be glad you did.

Now go and have a cigarette because I'm sure I just completely blew your mind. ;)